"Consider an acorn. Its strong shell prevents it from growing until the time is right. If you break open the shell too early, you don’t stimulate the growth of a new tree. You just have a dead acorn. As with the acorn, the key to healthy child development is to do the right thing at the right time. Neufeld makes a strong case that the wrong attachment style in childhood and adolescence results in the wrong attachment style in early adulthood. Throughout childhood and adolescence, the primary attachment of a child should be to the parent. If a child has a strong primary attachment to a parent from infancy through adolescence, then when the child becomes an adult, that bond will break naturally, as an acorn breaks open naturally at the right time so that a new tree can grow. Such a child, once she becomes an adult, is ready to head out confidently into the world as an independent young adult."
Parent and Child Room (Lower School Building) For parents of toddlers to teens
Join us at Green Meadow Waldorf School as we join forces with the Soul of Discipline for our three-evening course
The Soul of Discipline Course provides the Simplicity Parenting approach to warm, firm, and calm guidance. It offers practical tools and skills to last a lifetime, helping parents implement discipline that’s respectful and effective.
Together with other parents, you will learn a loving way of providing limits and boundaries that will give your child a feeling of safety, trust, and orientation.
There will be inspiring discussions, sharing of both wonderful and difficult situations at home, exercises to deepen your understanding of discipline, and planning and implementing small, doable changes.
This course is for parents who are looking for long-term skills to work with children’s challenging or defiant behavior.
This piece from The Washington Post is worth reading. Our favorite quote: "I also believe that competence can only be gained through experience; therefore, allowing our children to take risks will actually make them safer. Behind this philosophy is a strong trust in children’s abilities in general; I often feel that we don’t give children enough credit in this area."
This recent piece from The New York Times reminds us of the importance of letting our children have experiences that build their resilience and self-confidence.
A salient quote: "Dr. Gray links the astronomical rise in childhood depression and anxiety disorders, which are five to eight times more common than they were in the 1950s, to the decline in free play among young children. 'Young people today are less likely to have a sense of control over their own lives and more likely to feel they are the victims of circumstances, which is predictive of anxiety and depression,' he said."
Don't miss Marnie Goldenberg at Green Meadow tonight, at 7:30pm in the Arts Building Music Room. Get the tools you need to have supportive and effective conversations about sex and sexuality with your children, which help them make better decisions.
Are students losing their ability to self-regulate? Is "self-regulation" another word for obedience? What about the debate on willpower and that hard-to-define concept du jour, "grit"? This piece on the “academic diligence task” raises complex questions.